Time has a funny influence over us. It matters so much without saying or doing or being anything but this abstract concept.
Like marriage. Marriage isn’t scary because it’s a commitment. A relationship alone is a commitment. Marriage can be scary because it’s a time commitment. It’s promising not just today and tomorrow, but every tomorrow for the rest of your life. The concept of so much time can be terrifying. You worry it will drag on forever and become monotonous and boring.
Another terifying concept is the thought of too little time. Then everything seems a whole lot better. Suddenly you appreciate things more, see them in a better light because you realize you may never experience these things again.
Maybe it’s not about time at all. Maybe it’s just about beginnings and ends.
Your words are profoundly affecting. I have been married for more than 40 years to my child hood sweetheart. It’s funny, I can remember so clearly when we first met – the feelings, sensations, even where we were and what the weather was like!
If you would have told me at that moment that this would be the person I would spend the rest of my life with, I would have laughed in your face. Now, 40 years and 4 beautiful children later – I’m still waking up next to the same Jewish man every morning and it’s wonderful! Time becomes a very strange concept when you begin to share your life with a partner and children. It speeds up and spins you around, until one day you find yourself looking back and wondering, what happened? In spite of this, the past 40 years have been the fastest and most fulfilling of my entire life, and I count my blessings each and every day.